Kuidas saab nii öelda? Modell: mulle öeldi, et kui tahad kaaslast, jäta endast rumal mulje, sest muidu mehed kardavad

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Kuidas saab nii öelda? Modell: mulle öeldi, et kui tahad kaaslast, jäta endast rumal mulje, sest muidu mehed kardavad
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Peta Serras on edukas modell. Talle meeldib kirjutada ja lisaks kõigele muule on tal ka isiklik Pilatese stuudio. Küll aga pole tema elu üdini täiuslik: olenemata kaunist välimusest ja nutikusest pole ta endale leidnud sobivat kaaslast.

Mõni aeg hiljem otsustas 30-aastane Peta pidada nõu oma meessoost sõpradega. Ta tahtis teada, kas tal on midagi viga või miks ei lähe tal suhete vallas just kõige paremini. Vastus, mille Peta sai, oli tema jaoks küllaltki šokeeriv.

Nimelt arvas enamik tema sõpru, et ta on paljude meeste jaoks liialt hirmutav. Sõbrad arvasid, et eemaletõukav võib olla ka Peta karjäär, sest ta oli küllaltki edukas. Peta sõbrad soovitasid naisel jätta endast rumalama mulje, karjäärist paotada mitte sõnakestki ja kanda tagasihoidlikumaid riided. See pidavat mehi vähem hirmutama. Äkki sellepärast, et nii ei saa nende õrn enesehinnang kannatada?

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This time last year I packed every piece of warm clothing I owned (so briefs instead of G-strings… I kid, I kid!) and I drove to Canberra to teach an essential oils workshop. . One of my good friends, Tina, had become a raving oil lunatic which surprised us all! Even her SIL based in Canberra. I made a commitment to do ‘all the things’ and asked every single customer if they knew anyone anywhere in Australia who wanted an oils class — have business credit card, will travel. . Canberra came up. A solid 5 hour car trip from my home. I said yes, of course I said yes. I was so excited, so I threw a heap of money at Facebook ads and contacted every single person in Canberra I knew (seven babes!) and even messaged Pilates studios inviting them along to the workshops. . I probably spent 12 hours of reach outs and inviting in attempt to fill my entire weekend up. And it didn’t happen. . I drove home from the weekend selling two Home Essentials Kit and feeling like I was a bit of a failure. I didn’t really have anything to compare it to — except other people I saw online like my friend Alice who seemed to DOMINATE classes and that everyone was gagging for an Alice class, but a Peta class? No thanks! (PS! These are just bullshit stories we tell ourselves to say small). . In August and September of 2017, I wanted to quit at least 372 times. But I didn’t. I followed up every single person including a beautiful woman who was so sick that she couldn’t come along to a scheduled class. A week later Annie ended up buying some oils and we closed the month out on my birthday at a Silver team. In 60 days we’d achieved a sales target that usually takes 18 months (check the BUILD guide to see the average time to hit each sales level). . Yesterday I opened my Facebook to see a photo of an oils class taught by one of my girls and accompanied by a ‘HAVE OILS, WILL TRAVEL’ status and I was instantly transported back to this time last year. . Diamond is made up of four incredible silver leaders, and how fitting that a year after my very ‘balls to the wall’ journey to Silver that I’m seeing other babes do the same. . Cont. below.

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Sõbrad ütlesid mainisid ka, et Peta prooviks varjata oma ideaalset kehakuju ja et ta ei laeks oma kohtingurakendusse fotosid, millel on näha tema rinnapartii või millelt ilmneb, et ta tegeleb modellindusega. Lisaks soovitasid sõbrad varjata ka oma tegelikku nime, sest nii ei tule guugeldades välja, et ta on tegelikult edukas modell.

Peta mõtles, et proovib asja järele, kuigi ta kahtles, et see on õige otsus. Selgus, et tal oli küll meeste seas rohkem lööki, kuid samas hakkasid temaga suhtlema vaid need mehed, kellega ta enda sõnul ei näinud ühist tulevikku.

Niisiis sai Peta ühel hetkel aru, et kui mehi peletab tema edu ja kaunis välimus ning see tekitab neile hirmu, siis on see nende mure. “Mees, keda hirmutab mu ambitsioonikus ja soov enda eest hoolitseda, pole ilmselgelt mulle õige,” ütles Peta.

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We often romanticise self-care. . You know… mani, pedi, latte and followed by a long lunch with the girls. But is it really like that? As if I’d call that a day off. Self-care is caring for one's well-being, health, emotional health and even personal development — and it's not always sexy. It’s doing the tasks you don’t necessarily want to do or have the mental energy to do. And it’s something I’m focussing on right now. . I wasn’t going to post this, but I’ve had an overwhelming response to my posting this on Insta-stories I figure it deserves a place in my feed. . This is what self-care looks like. . It’s reminding yourself to make your bed. It’s prioritising your health by keeping up with your vitamins and supplements. It’s doing the things you sometimes don’t want to do - and yes, sometimes reaching out to people about doTERRA is really hard for me despite what many may think. It’s nourishing your body with good food you don’t want to cook. It’s not buying the Tim Tams, even though you know it would make your current self really really happy. And it’s getting yourself into a routine that’s achievable so when you look back on the day gone you can be like, “Wow, I’ve actually achieved a lot today and I feel really good about that.” . Maybe this is something you’d like to do - a habit tracker if you will. Fill yours with whatever you like, but if you’d like to focus on self-care, may I recommend: . Take your vitamins Drink 1L of water Go for a walk Hug your pets Put your diffuser on with some uplifting oils Eat a vegetable-rich dinner Sit and breathe/meditate for 5 minutes Clean part of your house Do something your future self will thank you for Stretch Make a cup of herbal tea Have a shower Floss your teeth Have a maz (flick the bean. tickle your pickle) . Px

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